Let’s Talk About It: Domestic Violence

Nobody likes to get hit. Why should you hit someone and not be expected to get hit back? Why are men deemed as abusers for defending themselves? Why don’t women be held accountable for their actions? Why is it acceptable if she hit him?

I’m no abuser but I’m just confused as why am I a bad human if I defend myself. By no means is this blog about abusing anyone but I’m tired of seeing these same situations. If we were to count all the times a woman has slapped their boyfriend then who really are the abusers in the relationships.

Why aren’t women held accountable for bullying men with the constant hitting with the same excuse as to she’s only a woman. Even saying that out of this context would be looked at as sexist. So why use that now? She’s just a woman when she hit you to make it seem like she’s weak. But when the shoe is on the other foot I’m a poor excuse for a human being.

This blog is merely a response to when the male figure is attacked physically and he defends himself. Just making that clear. As for when it’s the man beating on the woman, I think he deserves the time he gets. If anyone is in that position, I think you should get out. That’s not love. You don’t physically and verbally abuse someone if you love them. That’s all I have to write on this subject. Like, comment and subscribe to my mailing list. View my previous posts until my next post. Check out some of my poems while you’re at it. See you next time.

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Let’s Talk About It: Police

Let’s Talk About It: Police

I honestly feel like there are good cops out there. We just only see the bad. When you scroll through your timeline all you see is cops beating or shooting someone. You don’t see cops making a normal arrest for a crime. You see the bad officers. There’s good and bad in every situation. We can’t judge if we only see the bad.

Sometimes it’s also different from viewpoints. What you see from your side of town is different from what I see on my side. You see a hero and often times I don’t. I see the boogeyman. I get how some would say what about the people in your neighborhood or the people that look like you?

Oh yeah, they’re dangerous as well. I will never put them off as not dangerous. But if I get killed by my neighbor, my family could rest better knowing that my killer was found and put behind bars for life. The police, on the other hand, will live their life lavishly. While my family grieves over my death. Knowing my killer is out there living freely.

Or maybe not. Not everyone is the same. Is another statement I wanted to make. Officer John is not the same as Officer Mike. Just like I’m not the same as my neighbor. That’s it for this Let’s Talk About It. Like, comment and subscribe to my mailing list. View my previous posts until tomorrow.

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Let’s Talk About It: Slave Reparations

Is it fair? Yes if every other race that went through those type of situations during those times are getting paid then yes the race that suffered over 200 years of slavery. And a number of years of segregation should definitely get paid.

My question is what is the money for? What are you going to do with it? Buy some new Jordan’s and continue to live in a broken system. Where all that money can be taken away because you matched the description of someone there looking for. Yes, a payday sounds great but the fight is not over. Or when we aren’t allowed the benefits that everyone else is awarded just because of how we dress or how our name is pronounced.

We take money over lives and that’s the problem. We lost trillions of people over those years because of how we looked. So now a check is supposed to make up for the killings, rapings, and hard labor with no pay. That’s just my thoughts on it. People feel differently and I would love to hear your thoughts below. Like, and follow this blog for more. Don’t forget to follow me on all social media platforms. Subscribe to my mailing list to stay up to date.

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Let’s Talk About It: New Age Discipline

New age discipline. I hate it. The thought of my parents cutting my hair into some type of contraption to teach me some type of lesson is stupid to me. What happened to take away a child’s valued possessions such as their games, phones and etc?

As a former member of public schools, I know a kid coming to school with one of these cuts would be roasted for a very long time. Roasting is seen as bullying. So my question is what happens when your kid is bullied all throughout the school year? And the next year after that because kids don’t forget. On top of this what about the bullies online since you decided to post the video online? Also, taking pictures and posting it as if it’s some type of accomplishment will not raise someone’s grades.

I feel like disciplinary actions are not the best way. If I was having bad grades on some assignments I would want more help. Obviously, I’m not getting the lessons being taught. A wild haircut or timeout is not going to make my grades higher.

That’s just my take on discipline but tell me yours in the comments. Subscribe to my mailing list to stay updated on my blog. View my previous posts until tomorrow.

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Let’s Talk About It: N****

This word or two words is so annoying to me. It’s a word that was used to degrade and deprive the African American race during slavery and so on. It’s a term that has been over utilized in my opinion. If being called an N-Word is so bad then why use it now.

Sometimes I feel like we have selective pain towards it. If I say it to a black person I never met he won’t be offended. It’s not until another race say it is when you feel some type of way. It’s stupid to me. Like I can see if someone used it in a racist way but people literally can say “Nigga” and be called a racist.

If it’s so bad why do we call each other it? Why are we only angry when the person is not black? Why do we allow it if the person is a popular public figure? A lot of unanswered questions. In my opinion, I don’t think it should be used at all. Just like being called a monkey or wearing blackface. It’s something that shouldn’t be allowed.

But then you got people like me who have been raised around the word. Hear it in music and on television a lot. No matter the skin I feel like either never uses it or everyone should be allowed. Why embrace the word but still get offended by it? Why try and discriminate against others for using it? Why try and change the definition of it but change it back when the race is different? Why turn into our enemies and put people down because of their skin? What happened back then isn’t right now. Why still allow the word to hold power over you?

I don’t know really. That’s just my opinion on it. Love it or hate it, I’m just speaking my opinion. Like and follow for more from yours truly. Follow me on all social media platforms. Read my previous posts until tomorrow.

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